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28
July

Ziekenhuis is tijdelijke opvang voor bejaarden

Vandaag leest een bejaarde man in zijn eigen papieren ‘graag in het ziekenhuis houden tot na het weekend i.v.m. personeelstekort’. Aldus geschreven door het personeel van verzorgingshuis St. Jacob in Amsterdam.

Deze man is mijn kamergenoot en is tijdelijk opgenomen in het Onze Lieve Vrouwe Gasthuis in Amsterdam. Hij heeft een dotterbehandeling gekregen, en zat vandaag te wachten tot hij naar huis kon. Nou niet dus, dat is dus al geregeld. Worden de ziekenhuisbedden dan bezet gehouden door bejaarde mensen, die eigenlijk gewoon thuis konden zijn?

Naast het feit dat die man liever in zijn eigen kamer zit in het bejaardentehuis, is het natuurlijk van de zotte dat de ziekenhuisbedden worden gevuld met oudere mensen die er zo langer -moeten- blijven dan dat echt noodzakelijk is.

Gaan we zo met mensen om?
Sint Jacobshuis in Amsterdam, bedankt!

30
March

The permanent group

I am a member of a permanent group, which I cannot better describe than what Merijn Panhuijzen and Bart Kok did on their website:

Quite by accident a group of Dutch businessmen and one woman discovered a fundamental answer to the crisis in modern governance: the permanent group.

The permanent group is the missing link between individuals and society; between conflicting parties; between people on both sides of borders; between people from different cultures.

Our societies and organizations have a level of fragmentation that is so high that they start to disintegrate. There is no longer a relevant connection between micro and macro, between boardroom and work floor, between different departments of the same organization, let alone between strangers, different believe systems or enemies. We need to reconnect human beings.

But reconnection takes more than technology, more than knowledge about the problem. What is needed is a setting that is safe enough for people to really relate to one another. A setting in which you can give and receive true feedback without judgement. Take a small group of dedicated people. Forge the mutual relations from coal dust to diamonds. There you have the power to change the world. That is the principle of the permanent group.

Relation = Result. It is the relation that defines the result. No more games to play. Just a group of people taking each other so seriously that the self-evident qualities of each individual come to the surface to become a necessary ingredient of the final result. In the permanent group opposing visions lead to dialogue and the creation of synthesis.

With every real synthesis there is a release of energy: synergy 1+1=3. The synergy is the ongoing source to tackle problems, lead companies and to change the world as we know it, in a positive way.

Conflicts within the permanent group always precede the agenda. Feelings are facts and by taking feelings seriously the group creates a clear vision of the actual problems that need to be dealt with. By taking each other group member seriously, each group member finally takes himself seriously.

Individually each person is limited in effectiveness by his or her blind spots. Within the permanent group blind spots are easily spotted and the effectiveness of the group manifold surpasses the sum total of the individuals effectiveness.

You want to know how to create a permanent group? Read the book, or better: do it.

Togethere – Result into your own hands!

Every 4 to 6 weeks I am meeting my group members. And while I am in the United States now, I am on Video Skype. Our permanent group is called Howgh! and we are with 6 members.

12
October

Stem op je favoriete weblog

Ben ik het?? Ik hoop het maar :-)

Je kunt bij BNN elke dag een stem uitbrengen op je favoriete weblog.

Hier kun je op mij stemmen
Een stem voor Joep, mijn oudste zoon
Caroline Franssen heeft een leiderschaps weblog, zij vertelde het op de WomenOnTheWeb lijst, breng dus ook een stem uit op haar. Ook andere WomenontheWebbers kun je vinden, zoals Carola Janssen: weblog over levensverhalen, Fleur Guern met haar fotolog, Karin met Kidsenzo.En ook Isis met haar heksenpad.web-log.
Je hebt 5 stemmen nodig om door te gaan. Of kies zelf een ander weblog uit natuurlijk.

14
August

Ons hele gezin is aan het bloggen

Tsja, schrijven kunnen ze nog niet, maar het is een mooie manier om een dagboek van onze kids bij te houden. En straks als ze wel kunnen schrijven dan hebben we al een mooi begin voor ze gemaakt.
Helemaal nu ons webhosting bedrijf de professionele weblogpakketten heeft geintroduceerd. Zijn onze kids dus ook online met een weblog. Het emailadres van onze kids bestaan al sinds ze zijn geboren (Joep & Pim) of dat ze bij ons wonen (Krijn).

Lees en bekijk onze kids dus nu online op: www.joephensel.nl, www.krijnhensel.nl en www.pimhensel.nl.

05
July

The personality of Marieke

Marieke is conscious of existence, meaning, purpose, potential and destiny of humankind, people, and self. Marieke is motivated by a self-felt, self-accepted calling to the cause of good, growth, and gain in the lives of others. Influential communication of ideas is a primary way of achieving those objectives. Perception and thinking tend to be holistic and conceptual; i.e., seeing the big picture. It is important to see which of the other traits are interactive with this trait because there can be many interesting combinations. This is a major trait in cultural, intellectual, academic, and creative activities. It includes ideas, concepts, theory, ethics, and values.

Marieke prefers and needs change and variety. Change is motivating, stimulating, and energizing. Marieke looks for new options, challenges, assignments, acquaintances, relationships, and even new careers in new places. Marieke tires of sameness, repetition, and routine even in activities that were interesting at the start. Once things become routine for Marieke, this becomes a motivation to move on to more interesting things.

Marieke’s preferences and motivations are derived from understanding the deeper or ‘real’ meaning of ideas and words and uses them effectively in written or oral communication. Literary in this factor means intentional search for ideas expressed by the minds of others for one’s own use, assimilation, learning, etc. The source can be books, other publications, historical documents, research information, drama, movies, television, the “information highway” or internet, etc. Emphasis is on communication: picking up information from minds of others or communication aimed toward the minds of others. Journalism and writing are major activities. Literary activity is not exclusively intellectual, academic, or cultural. It may be an end in itself as in a bookworm for instance. And literary activity is not always accompanied by communicative activity, written or oral. On the other hand, communicative activity need not be literary in the classic sense. And one need not be persuasive to be communicative, but it helps. When the trait is highly motivated, as it is here, it suggests both literary and communicative abilities that are or could become a usable skill or a developed talent. By now you can see that only a review of all traits will clearly show the specific content of Marieke’s literary and/or communicative preferences and motivations.

“Mentor: a trusted counselor or guide.” Marieke is interested in and consciously prefers to consider the existence, meaning, purpose, potential, and destiny of mankind, people, persons, and self; with self-felt, self-accepted responsibility to influence and/or cause good, growth, and gain in the lives of all concerned. Marieke has intuition and philosophical curiosity that causes an awareness of personality, intentions, emotions, ethics, values, and moods of other persons, and of self. By itself, this is not benevolence. If Marieke is highly motivated for benevolent activities, this trait is compulsively central to personal and vocational activities. If there is a lack of personal motivation, then the preference for consideration tends to be more philosophical or academic in nature, but still service oriented.

Engineering activities, regarding mechanics, systems, etc., do not fit Marieke’s vocational interests.

“Synthesize: putting two or more things together to form a whole; the combination of separate elements of thought into a whole; the operation by which divided parts are united” (Webster). Marieke is motivated by seeing the big picture so much so that (s)he, attempts to see all parts of the picture in that larger context, then sees all parts relative to each other, but still within that larger context. Perception and thinking are therefore holistic and conceptual. Philosophical and intuitive processes are involved. Scientific, managerial, and/or literary preferences may also be involved. Other mental factors in this section are subordinate, secondary, or complementary to this primary motivational attribute. This is an overview and scanning activity that includes ideas, concepts, theory, fiction, hypothesis and assessment. (Note that words in the last sentence are unrelated to logic that Webster defines as “the science of the operations of the understanding subservient to the estimation of evidence.”) For Marieke, preferences for this sort of synthesis will allow it to get no further toward logic than estimating.

Marieke is strongly motivated to apply thinking to the big picture through holistic ideas, concepts, options, and strategies. This does not mean, suggest, or imply that thinking is kept only in a holistic context but it does mean that the first and constant priority or preference for consideration and focus are on the big picture. (Example: Marieke more likely prefers to be an executive rather than a manager, and more inclined to be a manager rather than a supervisor.) Considering how pieces of the picture are brought in to the big picture stimulates motivation for the activity.

Marieke prefers to consider math extending more toward theory, abstract concepts, experimental applications, etc. Because of the moderate motivational level for this theoretical activity, it is not likely that it would be satisfying as a primary vocation or have too heavy an emphasis. However, it remains a valuable asset that extends normal capability beyond usual activities.

Marieke is highly motivated to consider creative writing and communicating at professional levels. Preferences are holistic, conceptual, imaginative, and creative. “Ideas trigger more ideas” can probably be said about Marieke. High motivational levels for this worker trait indicate an interactive combination of literary and philosophical traits. As Dean W. R. Inge said, “Literature flourishes best when it is half a trade and half an art.” That probably makes a great deal of sense to Marieke. Motivation at this level indicate preferences that probably include writing fiction, poetry, scripts for movies or television, advertising copy, marketing copy, teaching creative writing, etc.

14
June

Moeder van 3 kids is écht leuk

Dit is Joep, bijna 4 jaar. Dol op crackers met chocopasta. Hij kent inmiddels al enkele letters zoals de H van Hensel, en de K van Krijn.

Dit is Krijn, hij is 2,5 jaar en woont alweer 1,5 jaar bij ons thuis. We zijn in het adoptieproces met hem bezig, maar staan op de wachtlijst, omdat het geen haast heeft voor de overheid.

Dit is Pim, hij is 1 jaar. En speelt graag mee met z’n oudere broers. Hoewel dat wel eens mis gaat, omdat zijn motoriek natuurlijk nog niet zo ver is ontwikkeld als bij zijn broers.
Natuurlijk kan ik als trotse moeder zeggen dat ze erg lief zijn, maar zelfs op het kinderdagverblijf, mogen de oudste twee (Joep en Krijn) niet naast elkaar zitten tijdens de lunch. “Want dan gaan ze elkaar de hele tijd kusjes geven en komt er van eten niets terecht.”
Lief toch?

Flickr: Photos from mhvdgraaf

25
May

Moment van bezinning

Het overlijden van mijn zusje heeft voor mij betekent dat ik mijn levensdoelen weer onder de loep nam. Want waarom kiest iemand om haar leven te beeindigen, als ze nog aan het begin van haar leven staat?

Het komt voor mij terug op het woord mindset. Heleen keek er zo tegenaan dat het voor haar een gerechtvaardigde en juiste keuze was voor haar, en wellicht zelfs een fijne keuze.

Wat er in de geest van een mens, in de mind omgaat, weet alleen de persoon zelf. Wij kunnen dat alleen maar benaderen.

Ik zie wel dat mijn mindset de keuze van zelfmoord niet voor ogen heeft. Ik kan me ook erg moeilijk voorstellen dat ik zo’n keuze ooit maak. Gelukkig maar.

Wel heb ik uitgepuzzeld welke doelen ik in mijn leven nog wil bereiken. De richting van mijn levenspad wordt me vooral ingegeven door mijn gevoel en ondersteund door de kennis die ik heb van mensen en dingen; de voorbeelden en rolmodellen die ik ken.
Ik wil nu niet al mijn doelen als een krant van morgen hier droppen. Wel hoop ik hier gaandeweg te schrijven over mijn pad daar naar toe, zoals ik ook op dit blog ben begonnen.

The clues will shine through.

Ik kan mijn doelen gemakkelijker bereiken wanneer ik hier in het Nederlands ga schrijven.

Ik hoop dat ik hier mensen, zoals jij, kan motiveren om te kiezen voor het goede leven en daarvoor te werken. Een keuze voor het goede leven voor jezelf en de mensen om je heen.

Een goede reis toegewenst!

10
April

Heleen in honour

Heleen van der Graaf, mijn lieve zusRutger (my husband) and I have created a memorial point for Heleen on internet. For you to see and share pictures, stories and comments about Heleen.

www.heleenvandergraaf.nl

05
April

In memoriam to my sister Heleen

The last week I have received more than 200 messages, through email, comments on this weblog and on another closed forum (BlackStar).

I want to share a few thoughts and sentences that touched my heart.

Always Remember
—————-

Always remember to forget
The things that made you sad
But never forget to remember
The things that made you glad.

Always remember to forget
The friends that proved untrue.
But don’t forget to remember
Those that have stuck by you.

Always remember to forget
The troubles that have passed away.
But never forget to remember
The blessings that come each day.

—–

* Success is never final. Failure is never fatal…Courage is what counts. -Sir Winston Churchill

Heleen you are in my heart and you have taught me many valuable lessons. Despite the fact that I will miss you being around me.

29
March

She is not there anymore

This is really awkward to say for me. My sister is not there anymore, since tonight. I am sorry to state this so bluntly. But I feel I need this to get over it. I am hurt, I didn’t see this coming, and yet I did.
A few of you know that I went to Romania for the last two weeks with my sister, to help her start a new life. Now I understand her calmness and peace. She was not looking for a future. She was looking for peace.

She has found it today, driving the coolest car she had. A tree ended her life. She is now together with my mom and 2 grandpa’s. She is home again, I know that is what she feels like.

Heleen thuis, zoals ze was

22
March

Hard working woman

Still in Cluj, yesterday our goal was to take good care of ourselves. So there we went, to the beauty salon, for a new hairstyle and to do our nails. The manicure was a young woman of 18 years old and she could talk English very well. As the others didn’t, we talked with her.

This young woman worked for 2 years already as a manicure, she had 4 brothers and 1 sister. And was earning the family money. Her parents didn’t work after raising six children they were tired, as she said so. She was also taking care of her brothers and children. Her parents were just watching television most of the day or went out.

I believe somewhere they traded places, this young girl and her parents. She feels so responsible for her brothers, as she sais, she loves them so much. She cannot leave them alone. But they help her very well in the house, with doing the needed chores.

Respect is what I have for this girl. She is working a 60 hour schedule, from monday to saturday. And yet she is enjoying what she does and takes upon her the responsibility to create a better life for her brothers and sisters.

There are many strong people here in Romania, and I hope to meet more of them, like this young woman. They are a great inspiration and are able to grow Romania.