This summer I took my kids out of school. Forever. It wasn’t an easy choice when I though of the convenience of having free daycare. But it was an easy and obvious choice when I thought about what is good for my kids.
Ask many kids and they will tell you they don’t like to go to school all the time, some will tell you they hate school. I think that is very odd. A child spends the bulk of his time at school, and if he is not liking it – it sets a child up in thinking they always have to do things they don’t like to go through life.
Clearly that’s not the case, as it is very much possible to have a job you love and make a living doing things you love to do. I think we set kids up for failure when they are following a path of dishonesty, thinking they have to go to school to become someone. At the same time diminishing who they already are, and what their passions are.
Kids are very capable of choosing activities they like to do, and most of those activities have an educational benefit.
When I go back to the original question, why my kids aren’t in school anymore, the answer is quite simple: they don’t want to. So, this summer I have changed it around. I have my sons each in charge of their own education. And they choose not to go to school.
I’ll be honest, after the first day of school, my 9yo’s best friend called my son up and asked if he wasn’t coming to school, and he decided he wanted to go to school. So day 2 he went back to school, but it wore off quickly. After 2 days, he said he was now really sure he didn’t want to go back. And that was it.
I believe that if we treat our kids with respect, they will treat us with respect. If we use coercion, force or rewards – kids are not doing what they want, but what we want them to do. And isn’t it the best time to learn who they are and what they want out of live when they are still safely living home with us?
When they are under our wings, it’s the perfect time for learning things we think they should learn. It’s the perfect time to make mistakes and learn about cause and effects of positive and negative behavior, because we as parents can support them when something doesn’t turn out as planned. So let kids experiment when they are still at home, and they will learn how they want to live their life.
So, that’s the long answer. I am giving my kids the opportunity to stay home to learn who they are, what they want to get out of life, and how they want to live their life. It’s their life, as long as we as parents create a safe environment, communicate a lot with them, and be there when they need us; when we actually build an equal relationship with them, instead of hierarchical, then I know my kids are prepared for their own life, where I can be his support and help in times of need.
I want my kids to get the most out of life, and the world is so much bigger to learn from then the opportunities that are offered at school. Does anyone remember an inspiring worksheet you made at school that changed your ideas about what you want to get out of life? I don’t think so. Kids find out what they want to get out of life, by following their passons and interacting with people, and I am excited I can offer my kids that.